Many Sri Lankans keep a demon (mask) in the house to scare other demons off.
Saw the local news last night. It’s madness. I should watch more TV. First off, people are literally running through the streets over this Grease Yaka scare. What struck me was another story. Village girl ran off with a guy. Guy was douchey, abusive, whatever, she comes home. Guy comes looking for her, mother protects the kid, guy gets pissed off and leaves. Comes back, burns down the house, killing the mother and another daughter. WTF.
Beneath the surface of smiles there’s carnage out there. A lot of relationships are abusive. Within families, within marriages. The Grease Yaka scare is about greased up strangers jumping into houses, assaulting women and slipping away, but what about the demons in the house? What about the abuse within the home, within families, within marriages?
Of 4,000 cases pending before the high court, Milinda Moragoda found that 30% were for child abuse. If you want to see abuse of women, just walk down the street.
Is Sri Lanka a bad place for families or marriages? No. I know a lot of healthy supportive people with the usual struggles. There is, however, a lot of (economically driven methinks*) abuse and crime that goes unpunished, un-investigated and unchecked.
During the war the job of the security forces was to stop the buses from blowing up and prevent general terrorist carnage being unleashed on the streets. Now they police are having to face the actual underlying problems – problems which cross ethnic boundaries – and they’re not doing a very good job. Yet.
* I say economically driven because, think about it. If a woman can work and rent a place on her own she’ll leave a bad family situation. If she can do that plus get childcare, she’ll leave a bad marriage. That’s just one case, but money gives you the ability to get out of a bad situation before it gets much, much worse.