Umbrella couple on the pier, Wattala
It’s very difficult to make out in Sri Lanka. One lives with their parents before and often after marriage so it’s difficult to ‘get a room’. There’s very little privacy of any sort anywhere, homes are full of people, every place is populated or watched, etc. There’s no hill where you can park your car and mist the windows in view of the city. If you have a car. The closest approximation is the couples cuddling in parks, getting untold pleasure from fondling a knee. Now they’re started arresting cuddling couples, in Matara, Kurunegala and more.
Young people in Sri Lanka do have sex. Marriage is still important, but beneath that veneer there’s also a lot of abuse, child abuse, etc. Premarital making out is probably the least of our worries, but perhaps the most obvious. The reason people are making out in public is that there’s nowhere to go. Property is the perpetual dodge here, and finding a door that closes, away from mouths that never shut.
Not that people shouldn’t get married or have sexual relations within healthy relationships. But there is a give between desire and reason, one which western society has (sorta) worked out with people going off to university and generally moving out after 18. Most Sri Lankans move out late, often never and this propels people into marriage. Many many people get married just to get out of an intolerable home situation, entering an often more intolerable situation. But there’s no real middle ground.
Unless you have money. Money can get a hotel room, or a ‘jump joint’ as it were. Money can rent houses or enable you to move out. But the vast majority of people don’t have the escape of university, nor any job security after, so they get busted on the beach.