Girl on the bus, India
The police are cracking down on courting couples and taking down indecent posters. Which is whatever, but I think they’re missing the point. A girl can’t take public transit without getting sexually harassed. I know exactly zero girls who haven’t been flashed at least once. A girl can get abuse or raped and it’s difficult to impossible to report. Marital rape is basically considered a part of marriage. It’s fucked up. I personally think half the men in this city need to be thrashed, including many in my social circle, but something socially must be done. We stand by and let way too much shit pass, and it’s more serious than posters and umbrellas. There’s a culture of rape on our streets and it has to stop.
A woman can’t walk the streets of Colombo. This is shocking, no, but we’re used to it. We consider it normal. But it wasn’t always this way, and it shouldn’t be. We have enough Army and cops to actually thrash every bugger that causes trouble, but that doesn’t happen. Instead people on a bus look at a girl funny if she makes a fuss. Like she was inviting something. But she’s not.
Sexual abuse is never the fault of the abused. There is no way you can dress or walk that invites or justifies abuse. I’m more attracted to a woman in a sari than one dancing atop a speaker in a miniskirt, but that’s not a license to yell or expose myself. But guys get away with that shit all the time, and we look at the girl funny.
And then the cops run around taking down posters of scantily clad women. Like that’s the problem. What about the pervy men? I know and love girls that have been abused and it makes me sick. It makes me sick that my friends can’t walk down the street without getting catcalls and verbal abuse. And it makes me nauseous that people grow up with this and consider it a normal environment.
This cancer spreads from our streets and men think they can get away with anything. Women fear reporting anything. And then it all becomes true. This has to stop. There is a culture of rape that begins with the casual harassment we accept on our streets. It is hurting Sri Lankan women and it’s hurting Sri Lankan families. Beyond stopping public displays of affection, the police need to crack down on public displays of abuse.