A wordle of today’s Kottu
Wow. I’ve been trying to devote time to sending relief up the warzone and I didn’t realize that the blogosphere had become one. This fellow Nibras Bawa is publishing bloggers names and addresses. This is a violation of Kottu policy so I kicked him off that, with the option to return if he stopped. But he hasn’t. So, Mr. Bawa, if you want to out anybody out me. My name is Indi Samarajiva and I’m not hard to find.
Bloggers have the right to be anonymous, in my opinion, because it’s their damn business and because in Sri Lanka writers lives are actually in danger. People also have families and co-workers and if they want to keep their creative/writing life separate from that it’s their business.
I am a named blogger and people have said all kinds of stuff about me and I don’t care. I remember someone made fun of a photo when I had a zit like 6 years ago and I freaked out and paced around worrying about it. But over time I grew up. People ask me if I know who Sitting Nut and Padashow are and I don’t care. Over time people tell me names but I never ask and I try not to listen. I certainly would never publicly out someone, no matter what they say about me.
I trust that I can win or at least exist based on the strength of my words and who I am. And because I think my parents gave me some basic character and manners.
Nibras Bawa, however, is a coward. Rather than standing on the strength of his words he chooses to publish peoples names and addresses, threaten them, cry to Johnny Law, leave comments using their kids names, etc.
He is a named person so I’ll address him as such. I think Nibras Bawa is a coward and borderline sociopath. He does not seem to know how to engage with people in a respectful and gentlemanly manner. He also threatens peoples jobs and families and both slanders and libels them.
And for no good reason. I’ve been attacked by people much more viciously than he ever has, and yet I retain my good name. Not by virtue of what people say about me, but by my own actions.
If you’re Googling this, I don’t recommend Nibras Bawa for any job or social interaction. He does not play well with others. I don’t know him personally, but I can say based on his conduct online that he is not a gentlemen and unless he reforms he’s not a part of the Kottu community.
If anyone else thinks that outing a blogger is somehow a good response, it’s not. It’s just cowardly and belies weakness of argument and thought. Anyone who does so will be removed from Kottu. The right to be anonymous is one of the few things mentioned in the Kottu terms, under the libel part. I don’t care if you fight, but there is honor among bloggers.
Argh, update. OK, now this Passionately Patient blogger has also jumped on the bandwagon and listed names and phone numbers. What is the point of this? People get back to me saying ‘oh, they insulted me first.’ Eh? I don’t care.
Such is life, people will be mean in the blogosphere. Believe me, I know. The way to preserve your good name is not by flaming out, it’s by calming down and being yourself. The measure of your character is not what other people say about you, it’s the way you react.
Bawa and Passionately Patient have shown a lack of character so far, but I hope that they can reform and be change. But let me be clear, anyone outing another blogger is off Kottu immediately.