yes, the closest thing I have to a picture is 1500 years old
Came home late last night. The trishaw offered to take me to ‘nice Sri Lankan girls’ which was just scary. I’ve actually been getting (marginally) more play here, though it’s certainly not baseball. In the Americas there are 4 bases, ranging from kissing to sex. In Sri Lanka, however, they play cricket. I seem to bounce from First to Second and back again. Not that I especially mind. Seriously, if you’re reading this, I don’t mind at all. Anything more without real affection is both boring or depressing. There are a few points on girls which I’ve been mulling over. Most of them aren’t mine. The parts that aren’t heresay are pure speculation, not that I have to remind anyone to correct me. Electra should have a field day ; )
Where Are They?
I think J-Buddy explained to me that most girls are from conservative families and hence sitting at home. I’d venture that many are also abroad. As such, there’s intense competition for the few girls that do go out. I’d say that 90% of the girls I meet are dating someone, who is usually right there. Often employed or attractive or something boring like that. I’ve been told that when a couple breaks up you need to call the girl that day, before someone else does. Going for the conservative girl market directly is a no-no cause I think you have to at lease imply marriage. And explain yourself to parents. The line between ‘sitting-at-home-all-day’ and ‘freelance’ is precarious, if not imperceptible.
Class
I see a fair amount of fit girls on the bus (I’d say 1/75 people). Sometimes you’ll find a girl that smells nice, which is like finding a flower in concrete. Unfortunately the class divide seems to be pretty large. I don’t speak Sinhala beyond getting ripped off by Trishaw drivers which, pimps nonwithstanding, does not help. The working class here lives a life I don’t understand at all. I may be taking the bus, but I have 50,000 Rs worth of electronics in my pocket. The bloody problem is that I’m too rich for the bus and too poor to have a car. I’m not rich enough (re: at all) to impress the Crescat girls that speak English, but I can’t even talk to anyone else.
Getting A Room
I live in the annex of my parent’s house. By annex I mean, um, large hallway. I sleep pretty well and it’s certainly cheaper than my last apartment, but no privacy. Not to mention the insanely uncomfortable breakfast-after situation. There’s always the girl’s house, but I’m reluctant to embarass other people’s parents. Last time I stupidly fell asleep there and her mom caught me sneaking out. By sneaking out, I mean going up and down the stairs four times. She asked “Who are you, and what are you doing here?” – both important questions. I had the first one down, but I think my second answer was a combination of “Uhhh…” and running. Also met the landlord opening the gate on the way out. And my dad on the way in. If I ran into Jesus and Mr. Rogers upstairs I think I could’ve embarrassed myself more. Where do people go when they live with their families? One thing I see is people kinda cuddling at the back of the last few A/C buses, but that must be wholly unsatisfactory. There are also the gross pleather booths at the Savoy. There’s got to be something else.
Gossip
The hive mind is finely attuned to sexual activity. There are like 2-degrees of separation between people here, and everybody is in everybody else’s business. One could actually be related to any girl, so it’s good to check. I guess ‘related’ can apply to school and social connections as well, which can cause as much suffering. One thing about the West is that you can have horrible bridge-burning relationships and never have to see or hear about that person again. Not in Sri Lanka.
Are You Real?
Oh no, you’re on the Internet. wtf.
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Well…I am quite new into bloggin but it seems so interesting to read all those stuff…
Well Indi its a really interesting article u have there and its really true about SL girls and SL. Specially the Get Room section. Its really tough to find a place to be with your gf without some of your never seen or heard realtives seing you n her or Police come and knocking on the door trying to rip of money telling you thats illigal to stop at a random place and try to have some privacy…Well i still dunno whether there is a rule like that bt i had to giv me some bucks to get him off my back.
Anyway I guess I can read all these interesting articles when I have some free time after my freaky exams.
It amazing that with such restrictions – living with parents, lurking relatives, marauding cops – women still manage to get called sluts.
A girl who has say, five legitimate boyfriends for an ‘accepted’ period of time and has sex with them all is less likely to be called a slut than a girl who pulls two different guys at the Blue and doesnt sleep with them. It just boils down to perception. Reb’s ‘good’ girls may get as much sex as ‘bad’ girls but they are just more careful about how/where/when they get it.
I think it has very little to do with sex and more to do with behaviour and how people perceive that behaviour. You could argue that by adjusting your behaviour to suit society’s norms and expectations you are restricting yourself in some way…but on the other hand that depends on how much you mind being called a slut (or whatever)
Sluts are cool. There should be more sluts. I just got my exam timetable. Sorry.
rayray : absoloutely. people are always going to talk, whether their talk is accurate or not. you’re always going to get judged. whether the judgement is correct or not. some girls are just more out there and hence more prone to be a hot topic for gossip than others.
most girls (like myself even) are constantly getting misjudged and their actions are being misconstrued. if a girl has many friends who are boys, she’s a slut. if a girl has two or three boyfriends one after the other in a reasionably short period of time, she’s fast, or easy. does it ever occur to anyone that she might just be young and undecided? you can like someone, and then not like them in some time, right? whats so wrong with that? it isnt a crime to get bored of a boy, to stop liking a boy you once liked etc…? you’re young and temperamental, a different person everyday. people just need to get that. besides, do you ever see a guy being called fast or easy because he keeps acquiring a ‘new girlfriend’?
D: great story abt the cops knocking on ur door.. where was this? hehe
on a completely different note HAPPY B’DAY rayray !!
Many thanks Savi – just waiting for next year to celebrate in style..; ) hope you’ll be there!
Electra – everyone does that when they are younger…you are more thrilled with the ‘idea’ of a boy/girl friend than actually paying much attention to what a relationship entails. and the novelty wears off…lots of ‘relationships’ that started off at 15 dont really last as far as university..but you are in it for a different reason..ie – not thinking of a life long commitment. I think its important that you experiment to a certain degree…its like trying on different boys to see what suits you..you learn alot about who you are and what you want and what you DONT want and that stands you in good stead for making a more informed decision in the future (when – lets face it – it REALLY matters) But this process CAN be achieved without you being called a slut.
Well it was in Kollupitiya. I can’t remember what u call that road, its parallel to Galle road near beira. Anyway I had to give him 200 rupees to get him off my back and get back my NIC and my Gf’s.
Well abt the topic Sluts, In SL getting the name ‘Slut’ its not really about how much sex you had or how many boy friends you had. Its all about how many people hate you. Well most of these people don’t really know the person to judge them. Anyway nobody has the right to judge anyone with the exception of themselves.
spot on D.. i think u will also find that some guys use the word ‘slut’ when they get dumped for something better :) ahh well..
..was it navam mawatha where u got ripped off by the cops?
Rayray: will try my best to be there.. sounds like its going to be a lot of fun !!!
Hi there!
First I must say that it was really my pleasure to read all Your posts. You are really using Your heads for what they were designed for! I will drive You a little away from the previously covered themes and will ask You to comment on a different thing, though it suits in the frames of topic “On Lankan Girls”.
I was to SL recently. I met beautiful Srilankan girl there. And I think I ‘ m falling for her. Up to that everything would be nice except that I am european. I do not know what does it mean for Srilankan girl to date white european guy. Do any of You have had the case? Something..? Does it fit Srilankan social standarts that Srilankan girl is dating european guy. Could anyone tell her not to involve in such relationship?
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Anyone? All I want to know is whether it will not put the girl in an uneasy/ uncomfortable situation! Do the traditions allow Srilankan girls to date (/marry?) white european boy?
It really depends on the person and the family. You’d have to ask that particular girl. I know a few Sri Lankan girls dating white guys and it’s no big deal, but their families are fairly westernized. One of my second-aunts married a white guy, etc. Also, most Sri Lankan girls abroad date white guys without problems.
I don’t think it matters, but it really depends on the family.
Thanks, Indi, for answer! I was hoping it to be exactly like You said! I owe You a beer! You may come to my place and get it :)
Hello hello,
It interesting to see every one quite concerned about meeting other SL guys/ girls. It seems to be a bit of a universal thing, this being attracted to some one from your own ethnic background. Auckland would easily fit in to a smallish suburb of LA, 1 million people and all. Here most South Asian guys date South asian girls almost exclusively and vice versa. The funny thing is most of my mates are second generation indians, we dress, speak, think like mainstream new zealanders, but when it comes to dating it’s always south asians. Go clubbing it’s all the indian girls that stand out . Inevitably have a few drinks, delude ourselves we are charming handsome men and walk past the gorgeous blonde the frisky red head and start hitting on the average Indian women. It’s like auto pilot. defies explanation.
I’ve started to read a bit of Shapenhaur, and this guy reckons there is no such thing as cobcious love towardrs another of the oppposite sex. its a subconcious decision to find a perfect mate to provide viable progeny. It’s not that tall dusky maiden at the bar is especially attractive, its just that your subconcious thinks she’ll add good genes to your offspring. So really no girls is special, sorry Hallmark, there is no one true love out there. Your concious mind is tricked by your subconcious in to believing that she’s the one. It’s damn important the futuresurvival of the human species is at stake.
Now here’s the fun bit. Since there is no girl out there that is actually special, and it’s all a figment of your imagination, there are two options. Either be the provobia; butterfly flitting ffrom flower to flower, hey if no one is special, i can conjure up the that stars in her eyes feeling myself every time. Or just look at the whole falling in love process as an eloborate hoax and just not take part in it. Just get married to a pleasant little solidly middle class social climber reference checked by your parents and disassociate from the whole thing. I dont see a middle path
College dude, college. Or university as they say here. Its reasonably insulated from the superficiality of working/money world and your parents. That’s the middle path.
This is Mephistopheles with an update from Toronto: The frigidity of Sri Lankan girls here is surpassed only by winter itself and poor son-of-the-soil and salt-of-the-earth types like myself are forced to bounce between the blissfully ignorant coconut and the “Give us Eelam or give us death” schools. At least you fellows there have the luxury of driving off to Sigiriya, be thankful for small mercies.
Indi,
I’m not sure about the colleges in states, but here its all about ethnic based groupings. the indians hang out with indians, lankan with lankans Koreans with koreans , and the white folk staggering about slightly disoriented. I was hanging out with some guys from U of Michigan, and they reckon it’s pretty much the same. May be its the safety in numbers thing ay . Marx would be turning in his grave rather rapidly, the whole borgeoise banding togeather irrespective of skin colour to exploit the workers is not apearent here.
I’m not convnced that university is the great equaliser.. the socially ambitious will do law, the south asians will do eng or med, the true middle middle class accounting or IT and the enligtened or trust fund babies will do some totally impractical degree like PolSci .
Isn’t South Asian 3rd base, the same as American 4th base?
interesting blog. indi. this is my 1st comment on ur blogs. I couldnt read all the comments. but here’s what i have to say.
its not abt looks, its not abt money. its not abt popularity. guys u need to get out there and practice. not just the club, newhere and everywhere. unfortunately colombo is a small city. so more error you make the more risky it will be of u becoming gossip. it takes courage.
as for pickup. pickup is almost never verbal initialy. u can pickup a grl via your body language even from the other side of the club (without their idiot bodyguards noticing.) listen to electra, listen to electra guys. u might have not noticed guys, but ladies give out non verbal signals hoping we’ll notice. if you didnt, too bad. its prolly coz ur too dumb anyway.
as for locations to play criket indi, try the car. if u dun have one get urself even a morris minor and put some comfy seats.
loki: blogging idea ..good idea,i think you dun need to go finding ppl. just go commenting away on others blogs.(like this). oh yes british council is a gr8 place too.
ruwani: (god damn i hope ur not the same ruwani who was my past relief computer teacher when i was at skool)….ur saying ‘The man that has no time for us is the man we lust after’ guys, ruwani here just spilled the beans. hahah ladies u have just handed over ur secret weapon. muhhaha. dont care too much abt women. shut off this computer this minute and GET OUT!!!
thas my idea. all of ur are welcome to feedback on my blog. dang i think there’s more former teachers and lecturerers commenting on this blog than i thought.
A car won’t help you get girls, but it will help you get whereever you want to go in one piece. Public transport is for extreme adventure seekers or people with the hide of a Rhino.
As this is an old post… I hope you have a car by now.
Lastly… can you drive in Sri Lanka? (note the in SL bit)…
Good luck
Neo u need to read the blog and comments. Indi needed a place, not a way to pick grls.
Hi!
I think in SL the problem is girls never ask for thing that actually they want. I mean if they need to have sex or whatever relationship even with their boyfriends they never ask for it. So the ultimate result will be having some depressions for long time due to bad relationship and become someone else’s toy girl.
Who said you don’t need a car to impress girls? Don’t you know that THAT is what’s the first thing a girl looks at…besides your looks of course!!! But yes…it’s sad but true…we girls go after the pshysical looks first…then check the vehicle to see if they go together!!! And any girl who tells you different is lying her ASSetss off!!! :))
If a girl plays hard to get…she wants you…if she comes willingly, get rid of her. And clubs are the best way to pick up girls…but if your looking for a nun, then stick to the church going girls…The club going girls are not all that bad. They just like to have fun…doesn’t mean they’re sluts if they like to have a drink or a ciggie every now and then??
And guys, please be neat about the way you dress. Girls just get turned off if you smell or your hair looks like Mick Jaggers..And getting a manicure/pedicure once in awhile isn’t a bad idea either!!!
Just Underlining….
Hilarious!
As far as im concernd the only probelm lies with the Sri Lankan girls is that they cant realy stick with one.
they say they tolerate all the sexual depression and they become toys girl?
That means a Slut according to the general SL terms Basically.
It’s infact not unfair to have a say at a girl whose had four or five boyfreinds a cheap slut or a “Toy Girl” cuz what else can you say else?
If they really have these kinda desires why in the first place they didnt take a chance to ask the first dude to do it anyway?
just nowdays women/ Or simply These Sri lankan girls who like even underaged are so cheap cum and wannabe european sluts who infact doesnt even exist even in europe.
So Janna – if its so hard for these girls to bare these sexual enegies within, why donyt they go and get laid afterall with the Boyfriend o Boyfreinds for sakes!
So these “ultimate depressions” will parish… Finally!
If you wanna have SeX you gotta ask.
Otherwise how come the Boyfriend whos thinkin you arnt that Type, telepathically guess and make it happen?
It’s a Dumb argument to just say that “I’m depressed!”
What do you wanna prove?
If I was the boyfriend I know, I would do that Fcuk anyway…
I wonder what G man have to say…..
Sri lankan schicks are bitch Hot. Dishonest.
They dream of a One guy and would Kiss a another NeXT day.
truth is that…
Girls like Janaa , or this girlwhoknws person arer portarits of that.
Sick of these wannabes.
HMMM…wannabes?? Or maybe you wanna be kissed by us?? Just because you can’t get to first base?? Listen..if we kiss another guy the next day, it means you propably sucked at the first. It’s the kiss that gets you laid, unless of course we’re reaaaalllyyyyy drunk..LOL it’s true guys…get a girl drunk and your home free!!!
But if you really know how to kiss….you’ve scored…and no, it’s the guys who are sluts, not the girls….we’re just bitches, but you guys are the biggest sluts!!
GIRLWHOKNOWS – No offence babes..
but I think the majority of the female or femine population livin in the high stakes or this numberd Colombo district are somwhat tend to get slutty or bitchy.
Its so obvious. the european or the US culture has effected us so badly and we basically cant resist it anyway..
as men, of course I agree with you on the pointbthat there can be Male sluts.
But the course for that eventually be the due to girls.
there are natural players, who maintains the perfect cover while playing the game hard. No offence.
but I like it. it’s good to be a player than rather putting up this BULLSHITT Commited tag over the face , But not commiting or whatever at All.
The fact is, at small ages like 14 or 16 , noways sri lankan chicks (especially High calss Bitches erm…. Babes. Sorry! :D)
start to go out. so when they meet the proper guy they are often screwd up to da maximum and the guy has to go through shitt to cover her past. thats the harsh part. I know many guys who dishing her past dirt and they wanna clear all that “Slut” “Bitch” titles over her, and move on with this love of his life.
But things get little dirty or rather Sucks generally when its come to this.
I Repeat, there is No personal attack in this comment.
But the Truth.
Which sucks gracfully.
THE X- none taken…I agree that the colombo posh girls ARE very slutty and always bitchy…but we didn’t get that way without help from the boys.. :)) You see, it’s really all they boys fault because the colombo rich boys have very big egos and always have that arrogant attitude…that *don’t even look at her* kind of attitude so girls tend to follow that act and play the part as well.
What about the rich boys who have to run home to mommy dearest who finds them a nice suitable *virgin* bride to get hitched to and eventually divorces her later due to the fact that she hasn’t been around the block and then the girl will eventually be scarred for life for being divorced at an early age and meanwhile the guys runs off with his current booty call??
You can’t even go around with another guy for fear of being called a “slut”. You see, a guy can have soo many friend’s he can call girlfriends. But if a girl has more than 2 guy friends she’s a slut.
Have you ever heard of the guys talking about one single girl who they say “oh yeah..I’ve slept with her” What about the guys who claimed to have slept with her??? what do you call them?
There really is no way to decipher who is more the player here, men or women. All I know is that…it’s a double standard issue…and this will always be a man’s world…even if Hillary Clinton becomes president!! :)
TO FROMAGIRLWHOKNOWS –
Nice. Babes thanX for admittin that its a Men’s world, which is completely true since We, Men anyway decide whether its a girl or boy anyways… Universal Truth :D
But some of your points are Hilarious. hard to comprehend and its not very clear too. No offence again.
because I hate to fight with girls. it sucks and they get personal at times. which sucks…
So anyways..
My points or answers to yours are…
1) you cant say thats because of men/ boys , Girls tend to get slutty or bitchy.
Thats incorrect and thats makin your own kind kinda kinky. Please, girls do not need to copy orReact accordingly to the stuff guys does. Cmon, they should know to keep their head above their Shoulders.
If not they are truly nothing but bunch of looser fuckwities, otherwise. I hate to say but form what ya undedrlining is that.
2) A girl can have boy freinds. the fact is girl should know how to keep the status quo and deal with her life.
and she has to know whether the BOYS who she associate are in for a TRUE FREINDSHIP ONLY deal.
thats where all these so called POSH girls tend to get fuzzy. they have Friends and they do not know their limits.
So he goes around with sayin , im close to this one , and here you go. then you got the news of the town.
Oh, that slut is goin out with this guy now…
This country is STILL sri lanka. how ever we try to be POSH or Sri-Americanz atill we carry the same disasterous rumour spreading energies within! these are facts, even true sluts want to be good ones, relatively..
In my experience most of the time or i would darely say All the time, its a girl who spread the rumours of another girl whose a slut. so mam, you just cant point your blind finger at men.
Its pefectly okay to protect your own kind. But there are general truths or open secret in our so called Posh or Non-Posh srilankan society.
whether you come from the Palace or from streets mand then grown up – we share the same morals or ethics whether we like it or not. thats why one slut tries tobecome BETTER than another.
it’s a Natural human factor to be better. and be respected Better. Even they have Rankings. Ethics.
Thats why Your arguments is wrong in thats sense babe.. You are good. IO like you r style in putting them. But Hey, you gotto see deep. the factors you dont see norm.
A Girl someday becomes a mother. Thats a Huge deal. and They are to be respected.
and this Respect need to be earned. you play with your life, sayin since Boys does it heres-Our Answer.
then sadly you are only strickin at your own social image in this so called POSH society, whethr you know or Not.
its just a matter of how bad you are, will send you down or higher in the ladder.
This is bad. This shouldnt be it.
I’ll wait.
Hmmm…
Thank God I stumbled across this bunch
Hell I couldnt read through this whole blog… but what I really wanna know is what kinda conversation actually stimulates women……. jeez all what i hear women speak about is the Soaps or some kinda thing that is totally unstimulating (well i made that word up cos i couldnt find the opposite)
Well hey why call women ‘sluts’ ???? could never understand ppl for doing that. If someone wants to have one on one sex or a gangbang and still enjoy it its the individual’s preference.
And to society or to what the FCUK it thinks of the individuals just stick a finger at them….. thats why I love the anonymity of London :)
Having sex is just another part of your life!!! Dont judge ppl by the way they get it….. wake up!!!
Dude…
1 – Read the heading. Its about sri lankan girls. this is about their stuf and stuff related to them.
2 – This aint No london Blog. this forum is sri lankan and if you want you can feel free to join in like i did with out screamin out loud about femine intergrerity in london.
Personally, Im happy for london. But this is Colombo, Sri Lanka.
It’s time all Second class citizens shut up or Grow up.
If not, Dude. familiarize with the Sri lankan way of dealing things.
Tataz….
GIRLWHOKNOWS – im waitin till your reply..
Thomas – No offence buddy. but thats the whole idea.
Chill… :D
:) I know it aint London Blog.
And I aint no Caucus either. I was born in a village in the Eastern Province of SL and grew up catching fish in the muddy paddy fields….. till I moved to Colombo.
There is nothing different to the way girls or guys behave all over the world. Most probably its the Age factor affecting the sexes.
If all of us live and let live and mind our own business there wouldnt be any bitches or whores…nor gigolos for that matter.
And can any kind woman please tell me what the majority of u find interesting a topic to conmverse on please…. like to try conversing with my Wife…hehehehehe
I think srilankan girls are not worth to have all these discussions.waste of time and energy.
hehehe hehehe
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