The State Of The Modern Woman


Dynastic prime ministers aside, Sri Lanka is a tough place for women. Men will literally masturbate next to you on the bus and other passengers will say you were asking for it. Any night at a club is an invitation to get groped, and any walk down the street makes you a streetwalker. As law and order breaks down further in Colombo, nights out are even more unsafe for women. They are less in numbers, surrounded by men both sullen and wild. There are also more men with guns on the street, more attention to women as suicide bombers and generally higher stakes to the casual sexism of yore.

There is a tourist map produced by Lanka Map Publishers which states that ‘lightly dressed up women, walking round the city or touching men in a friendly manner, are not considered to be people.’ A sad typo perhaps, but in many ways true. Women walking around alone are subject to any number of hoots and ‘ah nangis’. They are treated not as people, but as sex objects who are presumably open for any invitation. Even if a woman is accompanied by a man, he is asked if she is his wife (at checkpoints), as if being single and out were impossible. In the subcontinent this behavior is sometimes taken for granted, but in a country where average law and order is rapidly declining this is a more worrying trend.

If you’re looking around the city for lightly dressed women, touching men in a friendly manner, Colombo nightlife is the place to go. The government in power has successively clamped down on alcohol, music and all the elements of conventional nightlife. However, at the same time the members, sons, and lackies of that government are avid patrons of the same nightlife. This leads to a dangerous situation where Colombo’s social life is simultaneously blamed and victimized by the powers that be. Minister’s sons aside, the general repression in the country (speech, travel, music) coupled with deep economic woes leads to a bunch of frustrated men, on the town.

The trouble is that going out in Colombo (or its suburbs like Hikkaduwa) now feels a bit more dangerous than it did before. At times it feels like packs of apes, each with an internal hierarchy, but with no clearly defined relations to the other packs. So each group of men tries to protect their women from the ominous males that hover, question, and occasionally grope. And then there are fights, dangerous sparks when there is often ministerial firepower around. But all of these interactions are male dominated, resting on a foundation of violence. It doesn’t feel like civilization. Feels like law of the jungle.

On a cultural level, Sri Lanka is still slow to accept that women can exist outside of their roles as daughters or wives. That is, that women have protection under law, not under men. So it is still unwise for women to travel in without male escort at night. It is still constantly irritating and degrading for them to walk around at any time of day. And, more and more, these inconveniences are tinged with danger as the culture in general gets more violent and terrorized. Couple this with the growing class division into those above the law and those below the heel and you have a bad scene all around, especially for women. Sri Lanka has never been especially welcome to the freedoms of women, but as civil society is burnt on the pyre of ‘national security’ what few freedoms there were are also disappearing. The combination of hopelessness and lawlessness is a dangerous one for all aspects of society, but we should keep an eye on what’s happening to half our population.

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Me
2008-08-16 10:03:50

We are an impotent nation that’s for sure.

But is it because of National Security?
And are men the only ones to blame?

sue
2008-08-19 07:12:21

I’d say ‘Yes..men are to be blamed. I’ve been in Singapore for the past three years and haven’t been even looked at in a vulger way that the Sri Lankan men have been doing when ever they pass a woman (regardless of what they are wearing — even a saree..so don’t go blaming the women for “provocation’. Here women wear the shortest of skirts and go in public transport and are never harassed. It’s the deciplin and the mind set of the people.

It’s the way our men have been bought up to think..that women are nothing but sex objects. It’s hard to walk in a street in Sri Lanka without been commented (even if you are very conservatively dressed) on your looks, on what they’d like to do to you (in utter filth) or trying to bump in to you so that they can brush against your breasts. You can’t go in a bus without some lout trying to touch your hand, lean against you, rub against you and do all manner of unspeakable stuff. Countless are the times where I’ve hit a man in a bus.

It’s our culture…it’s because women bear with it without retaliating. It’s because society is ‘trained’ to think that the women ask for it. Boys should be tought to respect women..I mean look at the way a group of boys passing a girl or a group of girls..”ah nagees” galore…rude comments, descriptions of their body parts…It has to start young…this training. Parents should start making sure their son knows how to respect a woman.

Me
2008-08-19 09:44:26

Thought this deserved a separate post:

(Comments wont nest below this level)
 
 
 
Sam
2008-08-17 04:33:26

I’m not 100% sure. But I heard some time back in the radio (that means long long time ago when people used to listen to radio), it is illegal for a woman to walk alone in the road after 10 at night or something like that.

 
HS
2008-08-17 09:23:28

Sri Lanka’s bullshit cultural values is the problem, young men and women have to hide their relationship – having a boy friend or a girl friend during your teens is part and parcel of growing up. Just the mere fact that we dont have more mixed schools creates a huge divide between the sexes.

 
PC
2008-08-17 20:16:01

You mention that the government has clamped down on music. This is news to me! What have they done to censor music?

 
2008-08-19 11:38:50

if i’m not mistaken sam is referring to the vagrancy ordinance, a dinosaur from the british times, which makes it illegal to be idle in public, after 6 pm i think. it doesn’t specifically say women but it’s mostly used by the police to arrest women who they suspect of soliciting men for sexual intercourse.

 
2008-08-20 20:54:50

Apparently the World Economic Forum released a report on gender equality covering 128 countries and Sri Lanka got ranked at 15 (http://www.weforum.org/pdf/gendergap/rankings2007.pdf)

Sri Lanka actually fell 2 places from the survey two years ago where it was ranked 13. The only other Asian country in the top 20 was the Philippines at 6. The top three countries were the Nordic countries. Amongst South Asian countries, India was ranked 144, Maldives at 99, Bangladesh at 100, Nepal at 125 and Pakistan at 126.

So according to this report Sri Lanka does better when it comes to gender equality than such countries as USA, Japan, Australia, Canada. On the one hand this is really great news, but I am wondering whether it is true.

Do you think this is an accurate reflection or have the results been skewed?

 
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